Question:
why are french people so rude?
jaedacoy
2010-09-17 13:59:18 UTC
most french people i come across are extremely rude.. and seem to pass judgments before they even get to know you.. and the strange thing is they act like its totally common place to do that.
do they any modesty whatsoever
its really kind of disgusting..
Twelve answers:
anonymous
2010-09-17 16:38:51 UTC
Some of these replies are really quite rude im wondering if you are all french!

This is a joke by the way my rudest place would be new york followed by barbados my were they rude
?
2010-09-18 15:50:43 UTC
Nuance doesn't seem to be your forte, does it? Making a blanket statement about French people, thereby implying that they're all the same, is roughly as intelligent and objective as making such a statement about all Americans, or all people of any given group (nationality, race, ethnicity, religion, socioeconomic class, etc). While rude behavior can be encountered in France or elsewhere, you're overlooking certain things, which have already been pointed out and elaborated on by previous responders: the notion of what's polite or rude is culturally informed, and it's entirely plausible, assuming that you're even telling the truth about having been to France and/or met French expatriates, that there's something in your behavior and mindset that was off-putting to them.

Here's an example I use frequently. Certain American tourists in France enter bakeries, shops, restaurants, or other places of business, address the locals in English (without asking if they speak English first, or even speaking slower and enunciating more than they would back home), and with nary a "Hello", "Excuse me", or "thank you". When this inevitably doesn't go over well, they then become exasperated and return home with tales of how incredibly rude everybody was, never for one second attempting to look inward and consider the possibility that their own approach to dealing with people is less than exemplary.

By and large, I find the most virulent and unrelenting France-bashers to be people who've neither been to France nor met anyone from there.
Amy
2010-09-19 01:07:32 UTC
When I went to France like 4 years ago I thought the people there were extremely rude. However, I went to France a couple of months ago and I thought the people there were really nice...the first time I went to Paris and the second time I went to Boulogne, which means either people in Paris are rude and people in Boulogne are nice, or it's just a coincidence. I think it's just a coincidence and French people aren't generally rude :)
Cabal
2010-09-17 22:25:04 UTC
Says the rude person who is passing judgment before even knowing any French. It's really kind of disgusting.
Rillifane
2010-09-18 08:30:56 UTC
You may very well be simply failing to understand that there are important cultural differences between the French and many other people, Americans in particular.



The French tend to greater formality than Americans or Australians (to name just two). They find the immediate assumption of friendship or the sharing of personal information with strangers to be intrusive and even offensive.



The French are taught to be intellectual and to value debate, even argument, about things like politics and will happily engage in lively and opinionated discussions that Americans in particular seem to shun. Especially during the Bush years many Americans took offense at the active dislike for his policies that were prevalent in France and frequently voiced.



The French are quieter than many other people and dislike loudly voiced conversations. In a restaurant you can always pick out the Americans because they seem to say everything at the top of their lungs.



The French dislike ostentatious or vulgar display. People with hot pink toreador pants and purple tee shirts with "cute" sayings emblazoned on them are almost invariably tourists. You'll notice the heavy emphasis on neutral colors and plain black and white clothing among the French.



The French find the habit of many to natter on about the price of their possessions and the extent of their material wealth to also be vulgar.



This is just a partial list but you can see that it is not necessary for you to say much or even anything to be doing something that will offend.



Perhaps because the France is so well known in other respects and French culture so influential in many fields, foreigners, especially Anglo Saxons, assume that there will be few differences in social conventions.



If you were in Borneo or sailing up the Congo you would be aware that you were in a different culture from the start and perhaps be more careful not to offend. But the same rules of the wise traveler apply in France as anywhere. Be sensitive to behavior of the people you find yourself among. Take your cue from their actions. Always remember you are a guest and act accordingly.
laduree2
2010-09-18 00:57:05 UTC
I've met more rude people in my home city than I have in Paris. Of course, I don't live in Paris, but I've visited many times and in all of those visits only once did I ever come across someone quite rude.
?
2010-09-18 07:18:37 UTC
I do not know where you met these "rude" French people. Those that I met are very polite. Not effusive, but courteous, and they respect your personal space.

If anything it is the Americans I have met abroad who have been arrogant, judgemental, know it all, and often convinced they are right even though they are blatantly wrong, and many I have met in America are prejudiced before they get to know you , or over familiar and intrusive, asking personal questions that are really none of their business, which is kind of rude where I come from.

I am not French, by the way.
anonymous
2010-09-17 21:09:23 UTC
French people are not all rude , that's a stereotype... The people that you've met could be japanese , Italian , English or American and they would still be rude...

Please don't insult french people just because you've met some people that aren't well-mannered.
?
2010-09-20 05:10:33 UTC
I have been to france twice and never found this to be true every stranger I talked for help was kind .

the question is why do french people not shower often .
Guitar
2010-09-17 21:10:00 UTC
Troll
Purplelunacy
2010-09-18 17:01:42 UTC
I just think you've had REALLY bad luck !
Dentist
2010-09-17 21:01:02 UTC
i hate stereotypes and I'm not French.

maybe it's because you have no sense of humour.


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